Listening ……it is so IMPORTANT

Great article below.

This is so true. In meetings …we can see leaders butting in and not allowing others to finish what they have to say. These leaders have in fact literally shut down their learning process. It is not uncommon that great ideas do come from one’s subordinates. In fact the people on the ground should know best  on improvements to be made and to contribute forward moving ideas.

Hence leaders should and must listen. This is one important way to grow.

Enjoy reading
Willie Low
http://www.passionsofwillie.com

 

 

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Article below by – Dr. C. Otto Scharmer is a senior lecturer at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Listening is probably the most underrated leadership skill. How you listen can be life-changing; not just business- or industry-changing.

At the heart of most examples of colossal leadership failures — which are in no short supply — leaders are often unable to connect with and make sense of the “VUCA” world around them; that is, a world defined by volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity.

Listening is important to us as individuals, not solely to leaders. If you are not a good listener, there is no way that you can develop real mastery in any discipline.

In my work, the most consistent feedback we have received from the hundreds of workshops, programs and innovation journeys we have facilitated is this: Shifting your mode of listening is life-changing. Shifting how you listen, the way you pay attention, sounds like a really small change.

But here is the thing: Changing how you listen means that you change how you experience relationships and the world. And if you change that, you change, well, everything.

It is truly amazing how quickly people can shift their way of listening and attending. What I mean by “attending” is this: Wherever you put your attention as a leader, as an innovator, as a change maker, or as a parent, that is where the energy of the system around you will go — including your own energy.

But being a leader who listens takes work: practice, review, peer feedback and more practice. To become a better listener, you must understand the four archetypes of listening.

The four types of listening reflect the underlying principles of the opening of the mind, heart and will are:

  1. Dowloading: This type of listening is limited to reconfirming what we already know. Nothing new penetrates our bubble.
  2. Factual listening: We let the data talk to us and notice disconfirming information. Doing this requires opening the mind—that is, the capacity to suspend our habits of judgment.
  3. Empathic listening: We see the situation through the eyes of another. Doing this requires opening the heart: using our feelings and our heart as an organ of tuning in to another person’s view.
  4. Generative listening: We listen for the highest future possibility to show up while holding a space for something new to be born.

When you listen on Level 1, downloading, your attention is not focused on what the other person says but on your own inner commentary. For example, you may be planning what you will say next.

As you cross the threshold from downloading to factual listening (Level 1 to 2), your attention moves from listening to your inner voice to actually listening to the person in front of you. You open up to what is being said.

When you start to cross the threshold from factual to empathic listening (Level 2 to 3), your place of listening shifts from you to the other person. That is, from your small vehicle (the intelligence of your head) to your larger vehicle (the intelligence of your heart). You step into the other person’s perspective. For example, you might think, “Oh, I may not agree, but I can see how she sees this situation.”

Finally, when you cross the threshold from empathic to generative listening (Level 3 to 4), your listening becomes a holding space for bringing something new into reality that wants to be born. You listen with openness to what is unknown and emerging.

What I have learned in my work is that the success of leadership and change work — whether that’s organizational change, industry change or life-changing work — depends on the ability of you, the leader, to observe your quality of listening and to adjust the quality of listening to what is needed in each situation.

 

You ..

Whats important is “WHO YOU ARE”. And let others be who they want to be …….

Negative competition

How sad can this be ?
Never “negative sell”. Win on your merits is better than selling yr competitor’s weakness.

Time will determine the truth ..

Change

How many of us are guilty of doing this ?
Trying to be empathetic sometimes does not help. It condones the negative …..

Sincerity

It is sad that some people just use the BROADCAST function on their WA to send celebration greetings to EVERYONE in their contact list.

Some of their contacts are not even celebrating. Some are even strangers. This simply demonstrates ones sincerity in wishing a loved one vs a friend vs a stranger. Are they all the same ? These wishes do not even have the recipient’s name !! That’s so impersonal.

Greetings are meant to be unique with some emotions and feelings being expressed and not just a cut, paste and send affair.
How can one mean well when one is doing something blindly

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Humility in 2018

Here we are, year end again.
For many I am sure, 2017 just flew by.

Looking back, what was 2017 all about ?

Have we touched someone ?
Has someone touched and changed us ?
Or have we offended, hurt someone ?
With our words ? Actions ?

We know we are not perfect
We do make mistakes
Yet somehow “sorry” seems to be the hardest word.
By nature, most human beings chose to be defensive
Is it Ego ? Pride ? Circumstances ? Positions ? Ignorance ?

Well, it’s never too late to let our guard down
Especially to people who are dear to us
Family, friends, colleagues, even mere acquaintances.
It’s always admirable to have big heart

To be real and to be apologetic when one is wrong
Then there will be more inner peace, harmony,
love, laughter and even happy tears

For me, 2017 has been a a year of LEARNING
With tears of pain as well as of joy
A year of revelation of behaviors and patterns, mine as well as others.

Thanks to everyone who has been my TEACHER this year

Merry Xmas, happy holidays and have a great 2018 ahead.

Truths

The truth hurts.

Hence, people with good heart & intention  will seem to be harsh and rough at speaking out to you. They are at least real and they still care.

At times, one needs to be awaken and jolted back to reality.

Sincerity ….

Our staff is more important than our customers.
For if we treat our staff well, they in turn will serve our customers great.

How we treat our staff is a DIRECT REFLECTION of how our company culture is directed towards customer service. 

Our patterns are consistent ….
Otherwise, we are just being hypocrites.
Be sincere.

Prioritize the people in your life

Judge people by their actions and one will never be fooled by their words.

Notice the people who takes the extra effort to stay in your life. Never take them for granted.

Cherish the sincere ones. Don’t waste time on the rest.

Damn …..

What’s the purpose of doing someting if YOU  do not even have the URGENCY to finish it or even have a target deadline to complete it   ????

It just shows that what you want to do is NOT IMPORTANT  !!

Please do not waste the time of others waiting for you …..

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