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o encourage or allow someone to be truthful and blunt to you on your shortcomings, you must first lower your guard and perhaps start by sincerely confessing your weaknesses first.

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s giving constructive feedback is not easy from even your best supervisors, Your self disclosure would infact make the other person feel at ease and comfortable in giving you a blatant opinion ; which is what you want to hear versus a feedback that is sugar coated with ambiguity and politeness.
It is a norm for many to be unable to give good constructive feedback face to face. Sadly though, sometimes, people are only great in “talking behind your back and not to your face.

GE-14 (Malaysia in History 9-10 May 2018)

 

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What an amazing victory for Malaysians.
The country now belongs to YOU again.
Democracy prevails and Malaysia stands tall with pride showing the world what true “Nationalism” is all about and how CIVILIZED  you are in your journey and actions leading to a new Government.
You have fought from your hearts for your beloved country. No act of violence. No bloodshed. No handouts. All you had was your spirit, your will and your  mutual respect for each others’ race and religion ; united into one Pakatan Harapan with one sincere burning desire to better your country.
Congratulations.
The world can learn so much from you.
  1. To never undermine the minority races who were born and raised in your own country. Worst yet to make them feel threatened and unwanted. Bear in mind, the Chinese, Indians fought alongside Bumiputeras to win independence in 1957.
  2. Today, people are intelligent. Malaysians are intelligent. No longer can “cheap empty promises” nor insulting negative-degrading remarks can win the minds and hearts of the rakyat. The rakyat yearns to see real meaningful progress and action. The rakyat are compassionate, humane and able to differentiate between truth and lies. Hypocritical, arrogant and empty headed leaders have no place here. Certainly, the country has no place for anyone calling a minority race “Cina Babi”.
  3. Money is NOT everything. The ex-PM offered money. A crown prince of a certain state gave out money for a one day “supermarket shopping spree” to vote for BN. Yet, after all the above, BN lost. Instead, the rakyat who were supporters of PH were not given a single cent. They came out in strength and in spirit to support Tun M and PH. They guarded the voting venues, organized talks and some were even jailed for their actions despite committing no crime. The rakyat merely wanted their freedom and fair governance by law and order ; avoiding discrimination, insults, inequality and leaders abusing the constitution amassing riches for their own selfish gains using tax payers’ money.
  1. The power of communication on social media and digital mode. The power of “writings” and the speed of spreading news have made the rakyat more aware and knowledgeable. Instantaneously, important happenings/news/findings with pictures can reach millions of rakyat in the country. And praise GOD that intelligent Malaysians can differentiate what was true and what was not. Further, international neutral news media also brought in information contradicting reports  which were totally misconstrued by the local Malaysian media controlled by the ex-PM.
  2. The ex-PM (Bumiputera) was using religion and race to disunite the country. Najib created fear that Malays will be marginalized if PH won. Malaysian Malays thus needed another proven Bumiputera leader to counter and neutralize this issue. Tun M is exactly the person needed for this task. He erased these fears by convincing the Malays and Muslims that their rights will not be taken away and that Malaysians shall live harmoniously together supporting one another to rebuild the country. All Malays, Chinese and Indians will have their rights in this country.
  1. Lastly, it is ultimately the MALAYSIAN RAKYAT who made this PH victory possible. Without the votes, without the perseverance, without the vigilance, BN will still be in power. You (the rakyat)  have had a crucial role to play and you played it well
Watching (on Channel News Asia) this whole event from a far, I cannot help but truly respect Tun Mahathir. For a 92 year old man – his wit, energy, focus, alertness, stamina, charm and memory are second to no one. It was simply inspiring and admirable. What a great leader !!
I also noted that all of Tun M’s speeches and press conferences were conducted not in the national language of Malaysia (Bahasa Malaysia) but instead in English. It demonstrated Tun M’s recognition of the English language to be the medium for international communication – for this historical event; as it was televised worldwide. In most countries, election victory speeches are normally given in their own respective national language. It showed to the world that Malaysia is indeed an English speaking nation.
Congratulations once again to all Malaysians.
Though I am now living in another country, my heart still has deep feelings for the place where I was born, raised and grew up in. My friends are still in Malaysia and I cannot help but feel ecstatic for them. I had tears and goose bumps when I saw the live telecast of Tun M’s press conference after his installation from the Istana.
The days of 9-10 May 2018 was certainly HISTORICAL and will be a beautiful story for Malaysians to tell your future generation !!! Malay, Chinese, Indians – you are all MALAYSIANS and you stand united fighting for a better future.
To my school mates of STAR 1 and EC,  Ramli, Ridzwan, Zainal, Fauzi, Khair, Khairol, Jeevan, Alvin, Jerry, Verayan, we are now in our fifties. It feels like the 70s again where we were all great friends regardless of our race or religion and having our daily euphoria playing football in tennis courts.
And a special tribute to our late Cikgu Roseana who taught us so well to be Malaysians ; regardless of our race. We love you maam.
Going back to our assembly hall, everyone can now sing  NEGARA KU with pride and gusto once again.
NEGARAKU
TANAH TUMPAHNYA DARAH KU
RAKYAT HIDUP, BERSATU DAN MAJU
Salam Muhibah,
Once a Malaysian …….

Listening ……it is so IMPORTANT

Great article below.

This is so true. In meetings …we can see leaders butting in and not allowing others to finish what they have to say. These leaders have in fact literally shut down their learning process. It is not uncommon that great ideas do come from one’s subordinates. In fact the people on the ground should know best  on improvements to be made and to contribute forward moving ideas.

Hence leaders should and must listen. This is one important way to grow.

Enjoy reading
Willie Low
http://www.passionsofwillie.com

 

 

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Article below by – Dr. C. Otto Scharmer is a senior lecturer at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Listening is probably the most underrated leadership skill. How you listen can be life-changing; not just business- or industry-changing.

At the heart of most examples of colossal leadership failures — which are in no short supply — leaders are often unable to connect with and make sense of the “VUCA” world around them; that is, a world defined by volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity.

Listening is important to us as individuals, not solely to leaders. If you are not a good listener, there is no way that you can develop real mastery in any discipline.

In my work, the most consistent feedback we have received from the hundreds of workshops, programs and innovation journeys we have facilitated is this: Shifting your mode of listening is life-changing. Shifting how you listen, the way you pay attention, sounds like a really small change.

But here is the thing: Changing how you listen means that you change how you experience relationships and the world. And if you change that, you change, well, everything.

It is truly amazing how quickly people can shift their way of listening and attending. What I mean by “attending” is this: Wherever you put your attention as a leader, as an innovator, as a change maker, or as a parent, that is where the energy of the system around you will go — including your own energy.

But being a leader who listens takes work: practice, review, peer feedback and more practice. To become a better listener, you must understand the four archetypes of listening.

The four types of listening reflect the underlying principles of the opening of the mind, heart and will are:

  1. Dowloading: This type of listening is limited to reconfirming what we already know. Nothing new penetrates our bubble.
  2. Factual listening: We let the data talk to us and notice disconfirming information. Doing this requires opening the mind—that is, the capacity to suspend our habits of judgment.
  3. Empathic listening: We see the situation through the eyes of another. Doing this requires opening the heart: using our feelings and our heart as an organ of tuning in to another person’s view.
  4. Generative listening: We listen for the highest future possibility to show up while holding a space for something new to be born.

When you listen on Level 1, downloading, your attention is not focused on what the other person says but on your own inner commentary. For example, you may be planning what you will say next.

As you cross the threshold from downloading to factual listening (Level 1 to 2), your attention moves from listening to your inner voice to actually listening to the person in front of you. You open up to what is being said.

When you start to cross the threshold from factual to empathic listening (Level 2 to 3), your place of listening shifts from you to the other person. That is, from your small vehicle (the intelligence of your head) to your larger vehicle (the intelligence of your heart). You step into the other person’s perspective. For example, you might think, “Oh, I may not agree, but I can see how she sees this situation.”

Finally, when you cross the threshold from empathic to generative listening (Level 3 to 4), your listening becomes a holding space for bringing something new into reality that wants to be born. You listen with openness to what is unknown and emerging.

What I have learned in my work is that the success of leadership and change work — whether that’s organizational change, industry change or life-changing work — depends on the ability of you, the leader, to observe your quality of listening and to adjust the quality of listening to what is needed in each situation.

 

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